Tuesday, 13 May 2014

Update at nearly 18

Waif continues to thrive.  She is about to tackle her A2 examinations.  At nearly 18, anorexia is becoming such a distant memory that sometimes I forget that the ONLY important thing is that she is alive, well and happy, and that I must not put her under too much academic pressure.  I need to read this blog occasionally and remind myself of that.  The 24/7, minute by minute worry of eating and health was so all consuming and so heartbreakingly painful at the time, and yet, like childbirth, so forgotten in the present.  Waif is now a confident, funny, wilful young woman, but then (sigh) she was like that before anorexia struck and yet it did not make her immune.

 If Waif gets her grades, she will be at Oxbridge in the Autumn.  I hope that she has been in recovery for long enough to be able to cope with the pressure, and am glad that it is only 90 minutes drive away so regular visits are feasible if needed.  I worry that if she fails her offer grades then that could throw her into a tailspin of self doubt and the result is that I am again tempted to tell her to do some more work.   Really I should just be so very very proud of her and not worry about the future.  I still, and always will, love her with such unconditional feeling and heart.  I know this is how all mother's feel but I can honestly say that her well being, and that of her big sister, is the most important part of my soul.

7 comments:

  1. Waif looks stunning and healthy. You are a great mother. Your future will surely be bright.

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  2. I'm sorry that I just now read this update, but I'm SO glad to hear that things are going well. After following her story as you were updating regularly, seeing a post like this offers real hope. So inspiring! You're a wonderful mother -- very diligent and aware of how stress can impact your daughter's health. Having THAT is a huge aspect of her recovery...I wish I had that awareness and support from my mother. True it can come from treatment teams and friends etc. but I truly think there is something special about having it from your mother, other relationships just don't quite feel that same. You're doing her a wonderful service by loving and caring unconditionally. Will keep you and your family in my thoughts as always! <3

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  3. That is wonderful to hear - what is she studying? I've been following this blog for years and just stumbled upon it again now, so heartening to hear that she is still doing well!

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  4. :-) thank you. We are lucky.

    She is to study law at Cambridge. I am excited about that but MOST OF ALL I am happy she is a healthy weight, Without that, there would be nothing else. I guess the upside for those predisposed to anorexia is that they are possessed of iron willpower and dedication, and when that is properly channelled, the world is their oyster.

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  5. i have started my own blog after seeing how getting things in the open have been beneficial for people like you. thanks for the inspiration and i hope others can take something from my blogging :)

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  6. Hi, I'm a reporter with the national newspapers and saw this inspirational story.
    I was wondering if you could contact me about working on a story for the national press and women's magazines.
    You can get in touch at liam(at)mercurypress(dot)co(dot)uk.
    Thanks,
    Liam

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  7. Hi, I'm a reporter with the national newspapers and saw this inspirational story.
    I was wondering if you could contact me about working on a story for the national press and women's magazines.
    You can get in touch at liam(at)mercurypress(dot)co(dot)uk.
    Thanks,
    Liam

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